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20 February, 2010, 06:33:57 pm
hi,

well the other night i was on my psp looking up porn and i forgot to turn it off and now my brother has found it on my psp still on the browser and i said somone was remote controlling it.. i dont think he believes me he will probably mention it to my parents witch sucks.. now i have to think of somthing to say.. im not ready to come out.

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20 February, 2010, 08:08:46 pm
Hey man that's gotta suck big time , I am not out and I would hate someone to find out b4 I'm ready so.. I can give u some suggestions about how too get out of it.

1. Say u were on a website, chat room or some game site and it gave u pop ups and u went to get out of it but it redirected u to a Porno site!

2. Say u thought it was chick porn but wen it opened it was that , beta for them to think it was normal porn than gay porn ATM..

That's all I can think of at the moment plz tell me if it worked ttys good luck :D
.......... y not be wild :p

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22 February, 2010, 09:59:53 pm
he will probably mention it to my parents witch sucks..
In the highly unlikely event of him saying something, say that he's lying.
If he can give them evidence, the suggestions above are actually pretty good ones, go with one of them. :)
But honestly, telling your parents you caught your brother looking at porn is actually pretty tough to do, unless your brother is completely out to get you.
Try not to be careless. :P

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24 February, 2010, 10:14:07 pm
He came up to me and was like "if you are gay i dont care, its okay to be gay" but i still lied and said somone like remotely controlled my psp lol hes gulibul :D

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25 February, 2010, 10:51:38 am
Sounds like coming out wouldn't be too bad. :P

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25 February, 2010, 03:17:15 pm
You still have to think about school. All my friends are stright and will just ignore me if i come out

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25 February, 2010, 08:55:23 pm
You still have to think about school. All my friends are stright and will just ignore me if i come out

School was pretty much the reason I never came out earlier. Imagine coming out and facing all that bullying, knowing you have to go back there again and again. You have to have some very forceful personality.
But first of all, let's get rid of any ideas that being straight
makes you unaccepting of gay people. If you're close with your friends, you should instead be assuming that they would accept you, simply because you are their friend.
If you wanna play it safe, come out when you've left school. If coming out is bcoming that big a deal for you, maybe find a female friend to particularly warm to, then come out to her?
Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent.

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25 February, 2010, 09:00:09 pm
lol well my sister found gay porn on my computer,, i told her it was a virus and strangley she believed me :L lol anddd then last year some bitch told her i was gay and then she told my parents and thats how they found out :L gawwwdd. fml

but it actually feels good once its out in the open even though me and my dad dont really get along :/

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07 March, 2010, 07:31:23 pm
Hey Counter2 :) This is probably way out of date and all resolved and stuff by now, but I couldn't help putting my two cents in!

You know most people don't just come out once.  I have to "come out" to every new person I meet.  I told my friends a long time before I told my parents.  I told my brother before I told my parents, too, and then I told my mum before I told my Dad.
Maybe being honest with your brother won't be as bad as you think.  Of course there's nothing wrong with keeping it to yourself until you're ready; but do you really want to spend the rest of your life lying?  Telling your parents "oh, he's lying about the porn" is just going to set you up as enemies.  Anyway, JaisonDrake is probably right; I doubt he'd mention anything to your folks... who talks about porn with their parents?!

Anyway, the point is, if your brother confronts you about it, maybe you could consider being honest.  Coming out to him does not mean you will also have to tell your parents, or people at school.  If he's genuine about being ok with it, then he will understand that you want to keep it secret.

Hope things all work out :)
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